The Most Important Thing(s)
March 17, 2009
What's more important than money?
Is it your career, or a passionate hobby, or your life itself?
Not if you have kids. If you have kids, the answer is obvious: your kids are the most important things. For some inexplicable reason, you would do anything to help them, at any cost to yourself, even if it makes no rational sense. Even (if you're wise and strong enough) if it means "hurting" them in the immediate term to help them in the long run. I don't travel for my job. People who do what I do can make a lot more money doing the same thing if they're willing to live on the road 4-5 days a week.
Would my kids be better off with more money? Well, they'd have more stuff, but they wouldn't have a dad. We'd vacation in more expensive places, maybe have a bigger, newer house, wouldn't have to go into as much debt when college rolls around, retire a few years earlier. But would any of that be as useful to them as having 2 parents instead of 1? I struggle with that question on a regular basis, and I always come to the same conclusion. It's almost to the point where it's no longer a "struggle" as much as it is a short-lived hypothetical fantasy about "what would we do if we had twice as much money?" The list is endless, which leads to the obvious realization that no matter how much money you have, it cannot provide you with the most important thing in life to any parent, which is the feeling that you have done everything in your power to give them a solid foundation upon which to build the rest of their lives.
Kinda tough to build the best possible foundation when you're not on-site, isn't it?